This concept is taken directly and unabashedly from Sex and the City wherein Miranda explains to the girls that when a guy is ready to get married, his cab light goes on. If it’s not on, there is no use, he is nothing but an epic fail. To try to get him to marry you or even commit long term is fruitless…oh, and stupid. He isn’t ready, you can’t change him and he’s a waste of time.
So, how does this apply to writing? Your writing career? Any career? Social media participation?
The way I see it looks like this:
Are you ready? Do you want to be where you are? Doing what you’re doing?
Because we can tell when you aren’t. No one seeks you out because they can feel your hesitation, your negativity, your non-commitment. Your light isn’t on, so the good clients probably can’t even find you. And the people that do hire you? Well, think about the girl that constantly chases the ‘wrong’ guy (and talks about it all the time) – do you want to work for the analogical equivalent of her?
When it feels right – your energy is contagious, people want to be around you. You’re positive and always looking for a solution. You ooze success and upward movement and staying power.
If you don’t feel good about your work or your marketing plan, rethink your chosen path. Make a change and find what feels right. Then, look up. Your cab light will be on…and everyone will be flagging you down.
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Interesting analogy and so true. I usually say “Michelle’s bakery is open, two lines, no waiting” when I’m ready to move on to something new. But I like the cab analogy even better. Thanks, Julie
Completely and utterly timely. I want to go forward cognizant of the vibe I am letting loose. I love this analogy – makes perfect sense.
Wow, I had no idea what I’d find when I noticed this title in my inbox. So glad I jumped right in and read it! :-)
I’ll tell you–my light aint on today. I should just go back to bed. Not even sure why I believe sitting here in front of my computer is gonna somehow going to turn on my light because it’s so not! Nap nap nap….
Good post. I’d missed that SITC episode. Sounds like it was a great one–and true as always.
Oh Alisa – my respect level for you just plunged. You missed a SATC episode? There is really no excuse for that sort of behavior.
And I can’t type either! Holy crap. SITC vs SATC and “gonna somehow going to.” Did I actually go to school for this? It HAD to have been someone else who did that. Bed now. Really. I’m there. Must have lost brain somewhere between the bedroom and the office anyway. Maybe I’ll find it on my way back…
So true Julie. Who wants to work with a dead fish? My husband, yes (he’s a fisherman). The rest of the world, no! Always good to get an energy adjustment and refocus on what we do and why we do it.