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Because I can

By July 10, 2010How To

Today, I’m going to share a video with you…and a poem.


  • Kelly Diels is a goddess, clearly shares part of my soul and knew that I would love it.
  • Vanessa Hidary is a writer and woman SUPREME.
  • Therefore, she should be celebrated.
  • I applaud all people that say what they mean to say in a way that says what other people mean to/wish to/want to say but never, ever would. Like Ani DiFranco, for instance.
  • I think a few people will learn/benefit/catharticize from it.
  • It’s Saturday.
  • My birthday is on Tuesday.
  • It’s really, really hot and humid where I live.
  • Well, quite simply put—and said with the same verve that Meg Ryan says, “They’re my bags” in French Kiss, one of my favorite movies with one of the best on-screen kisses ever (yes, the one on the train)—this is, after all, my blog and I can.

Warning! Do not watch this video if any of the following apply to you:

  • You don’t like the P word.
  • You don’t like the F word (specifically when people use it instead of something prissy like ‘intercourse’)
  • You are my father.
  • You are my mother. Or mother-in-law.
  • You still think I’m eight-years-old (ie. you are either of my older brothers).
  • You have a problem with strong women that speak their mind (in which case, why are you here exactly?)
  • After watching it, you think to yourself, “Peru sounds rather nice.”

Join the discussion 19 Comments

  • Erica says:

    Yessssssss. Yes, yes, yes. I even watched it twice. Damn she’s good.

    And of course, happy fucking birthday.

  • Julie Roads says:

    Thanks, Erica! I encourage you to watch some of her others…the juiciness continues.

  • Alisa Bowman says:

    Love it. The first P line is the best (the feminist hall of shame). And the last P line is the second best line. She owns it.

    • Julie Roads says:

      Alisa – once again, a fine example of using the P word for the good of women everywhere, eh?

  • Edel says:

    Hi, I watched it and a few others. Is it a free mic show or something? (Not from the states so no idea.) Is she well known in the states? Whats the deal-io?

  • Lindsey says:

    Fantastic. As are you. As is Kelly.
    Happy birthday! xo

  • Kathryn says:

    sitting here waiting to be somebody’s girl and thanking you and her for understanding!

    • Julie Roads says:

      Kathryn – it’s a divine feeling. I’ve burned my P once or twice before just for a taste of it…

  • carrie says:

    Wow…enough to make me rethink New York.

    • Julie Roads says:

      Carrie – because you want to go there to get f**ked like Brooklyn?
      or because you think these ‘men’ only live there, so you don’t want to go anywhere near NYC?

      Because I think you can fulfill both counts without actually being in the NYC vicinity.

  • Edgy Mama says:

    Rock it! Girl power, indeed.

  • Cecily says:

    Almost made me miss my days on the poetry slam circut.

    (but not really)

  • Just watched the A&E Biography about Catwoman last night. Apart from the seriously racy costumes and Eartha Kitt’s amazing growl, I love how Catwoman embodies the dichotomy of everywoman – the part of us that is out to please everyone and the part that is Catwoman – out to please herself and not willing to compromise for anyone.

    In real life, we have people like Vanessa Hidary, showing us what it looks like when a woman has the courage to get out there and be herself – her whole self without any inhibitions or pulled punches.

    Loved it.

  • Amy Oscar says:

    F-ing brilliant. Happy Birthday.

  • Kat Jaibur says:

    I needed to change from hot tea to iced tea after watching that! What a find. Loved your setup & warnings almost as much as her performance. And yes, I checked out & loved her “PhD in HIM”. Been there, too.

  • Jed says:

    Julie…believe it or not, I loved it! Yes,I cringe at all those alphabet words, but this woman is a poet. Her use of language and her dramatization of the poem is outstanding. She captured me…and I’ve never lived in Brooklyn or Peru…and I’m a guy, of all things.

    • Julie Roads says:

      Jed – I believe it. Because you are a writer – and you can see around the dirty bits to the art.

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