- You no longer feel good when you’re doing it.
- Or after you’re done.
- It’s no longer offering solutions.
- It doesn’t give you what you need.
- The pervasive feelings are dark: sadness, worry, fear.
So…you should stop doing it right?
But still, even knowing all of those things, it’s hard to walk away.
Because you used to want it, more than anything else. Because it’s familiar. Because change is hard. Because trying new things can be terrifying—stepping into the unknown. Because if you just try a little harder, you can make it work. Dammit.
Yeah. But I also think it’s this:
Junior High Syndrome
(which is oddly synchronous with the Stockholm Syndrome, now that I think about it)
And I also remember the feeling of needing to be everywhere at once—and this is the Syndrome. That if some of my friends were going to the mall and some were going to the pool—I was screwed because I felt a dizzying desire to be in both places at once. It was scary not to be ‘there’, not to have a presence.
Why? Because something might be missed! Back then it was being in on a private joke or meeting a cute boy or having your best friend bond with someone else.
Today, what could be missed seems more critical: the chance to work on an incredible project, writing the best thing you’ve ever written, connecting with someone who could network you into the stratosphere, the single most important dose of inspiration ever, the truest of loves, real happiness and fulfillment.
All evidence up to this point has shown you that your current situation is 99.99999% likely not to give you any of the things that you want it to give you.
So why? WHY WOULD YOU STAY? Will you miss the struggle that much?
Why in the world wouldn’t you decide there was something better over there—better words, better people, better opportunities, better betterness. Why in the world wouldn’t you get up and walk away. Why?
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